Last week we talked about relaxing and listening to yourself.

Listening to your ‘gut’…

Let’s talk today about how you can easily “sabotage” your own success.

Let’s be clear on one thing before proceeding: No one is preventing you from succeeding. That’s right — no one is standing in your way… not your father, your mother, your brother, your friends, your spouse, your kids, your boss, your co-workers… NO ONE — except YOU.

Other people succeed. You can succeed. Period. End of story.

The only thing stopping you is YOU.

So, let’s talk about how you can easily “sabotage” your own success…

If you talk openly about your “big” plans for opening and succeeding in your own business you are telegraphing an important message to everyone you mention it to: You’re looking for them to approve of your plans. You’re LOOKING for approval without realizing it.

What else does it telegraph? You have no confidence in yourself.

The first step in succeeding is either to keep your plans to yourself or discuss them only with trusted advisors and partners who are as successful as YOU want to be.

If other people say you cannot do it (especially family members or friends), you empathize with their point of view but you pretty much you ignore them…

Uh, uh… ignore them, nicely, but ignore them.

If they say you’re a dreamer, you’re un-realistic… it means then that you have talked too much about your plans and wasted your energy.

Let’s be really blunt here. It’s pretty hard to convince someone that you can make your living online if you haven’t done it yet!

So don’t try to convince them! You are wasting your energy.

Frankly, I never depended on other people for any kind of emotional or other support when it came to my online venture because I probably would have been met by blank stares anyway when discussing the incredible opportunity.

The only exception is my brother, who is also interested in the Internet as a business opportunity.

So what does this all mean in practical terms?

How do you practice this sage advice?

First, don’t tell anyone your desire to make money, how you plan to do it or any other details of your ventures.

Second, do not discuss your failures or your successes with anyone either.

So why do your own family members (sometimes) try to reduce your ambitions when it comes to starting your own business?

It’s scary for them.

They feel insecure. They like you just the way you are. They figure if you suddenly become successful, they you’ll be ‘different’ somehow.

They resist change. You embrace change. Big difference.

That doesn’t happen, but they THINK it.

Please stay with me because there is a surprise twist to this… this is really important.

Let me run this scenario by you:

You mention to a family member that you intend to start a part-time or full-time business on the Internet.

They immediately remind you of the failed part-time business you started several years ago and how you are still repaying the credit cards you ran up on that failed business.

You say that this is different because, “… I took this course from David Vallieres and he taught me how to do it the right way and…”

“WHO???”

“David Vallieres… and he’s got his great little system see and I know I can work this system and model his success, so I thought…”

“Are you crazy? How much is this one going to cost? Look I’ve had enough of your hair brained business ideas and I’ll tell you something else, you better get a job!”, etc, etc…

Ok?

Get the picture?

The point I’m making here is this: You will have enough to deal with: a lot of failure and a lot of ‘trial and error’ before you can succeed so take responsibility for it yourself and don’t burden, yes “burden”, your family and friends with it.

It is extremely rare to succeed without failure… and ‘fear of failure’ is the number one cause of never even getting started!

So how do you get started?

The two biggest causes for not getting started has to do with:

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1. TALKING too much about what you are going to do, instead of DOING it.

2. NOT taking responsibility for everything that happens in your life - it’s always someone else’s fault. It’s NOT!
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The Internet is a HUGE opportunity for the little guy and gal to compete with the big boys of business….

I was thinking the other day, and I KNOW this is a FACT because I have done it in other markets:

The Internet is a LEVEL playing field… you DO NOT have to be a ‘guru’ of any kind to succeed online.

IF - IF - IF you have a great product. IF YOU HAVE A GREAT PRODUCT…

Did you hear that? IF… IF you have a great product, you can make a FORTUNE ONLINE and I don’t care who you are… doesn’t matter.

More about products and how to make them great another time